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The Idol of Marriage

I’m a single lady and I’ve gotten all the questions about when are you going to get married, is there anyone you like, etc. I’m sure there’s some single guys out there who can relate as well. But I was thinking about it the other night and I just got kind of sick of how our culture views marriage, so I decided to write this blog post.

Our culture has set up marriage as this huge goal for life. All of these movies and books and TV shows have marriage and romance as the goal. People pick up on this and eventually relatives and friends begin to assume that you can’t be happy till you’re married, or in a romantic relationship. And it’s not that I don’t want to be married someday. I would love that. But I also know that anything, even a good thing like marriage, is not supposed to be what we base our life on. It can’t fulfill my desire for happiness any more than money or a successful career can.

And as I’ve seen more and more of my friends getting married, I can see it’s true for everyone. Marriage is a good thing and there is a lot of blessing and happiness in it. But there is also a lot of hardship and frustration. One person cannot make you happy all of the time, even if they try really hard. And the “happily ever after” fairy tale is a lie. Life is hard, and so is marriage and often times it involves deep hurts, disagreements, hard situations and working through that is tough. It’s even tougher if you’ve built up marriage into a myth and idol to strive for that will somehow make you happy and fulfilled. Even though I’m not married I can confidently say marriage cannot make you happy. Because nothing in this life will. The only thing, the only One who can is God. Nothing can replace Him. He is where we get meaning, fulfillment, happiness, joy, peace, love and everything good from.

So no, I’m not married. And I honestly don’t know if I will ever be married on this earth. But that doesn’t mean I am unhappy or unfulfilled, or even sad. Sure there’s a part of me that would still like to be married and might be disappointed if it doesn’t happen. But it’s not what my life is all about, and I won’t be crushed if it never happens. Because I do have God, and I love Him with all my heart and soul. And He loves me more than I can imagine, and better than a husband ever could.

So, sorry for the rant. But I’m sick of this culture pushing marriage on everyone as the only way to be happy. Because it’s not the only way, and it really isn’t a way at all. Without God, nothing will satisfy you, not even marriage. So if you’re married, congratulations, and I hope you enjoy it but remember to look for your ultimate satisfaction in Christ. And if you’re not, please don’t set all your hopes and dreams on finding that one special guy or girl. No one can fulfill your life like that. Only God can.

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The Lunar Chronicles

I just finished reading the Lunar Chronicles Series, or really 4 of the 5 books. My sister recommended them to me and I have to admit, they were extremely engaging. I had a hard time putting the books down, though the last book Winter I had to read over several days just because it was so long (over 800 pages). The only book I skipped was Fairest because my sister said it wasn’t her favorite and any of the plot points it gave were mostly covered in the other books. The series did a wonderful job of taking familiar fairy tale stories and making them fresh, new, exciting and adding some unexpected twists.

Cinder by Marissa Meyer

The series starts with Cinder, and as by the title you can probably guess that it is based on the story of Cinderella. However, there are some striking differences between the original story and this new book. One of the biggest ones is that Cinder isn’t just a peasant girl who catches the eye of a prince. She is actually a princess, though she doesn’t know it, and an evil queen had tried to kill her. In actuality she should be queen right now, but of course the usurper queen wants the throne for herself and would do anything in her power to kill Cinder. So even though the cruel stepmother is still a character in this series, the usurping queen is the real villain that remains through the whole series. By the end of Cinder, our happily ever after has not happened, but instead we are set up for an epic adventure where Cinder needs to confront this evil queen and get her throne back.

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The next book, Scarlet, is based on the Little Red Riding Hood story. It too follows a familiar story line with Scarlet searching for her Grandmother and encountering a wolf, or wolf-like person. However their adventure is tied up in Cinder’s and eventually they meet up and begin to work together to defeat the evil queen.

Cress

 

Cress is the third book in the series and is based loosely on the Rapunzel story. Her hero who comes to her rescue was actually introduced in the second book Scarlet and their story is again intertwined with Cinder and her plan to reclaim her throne.

Winter

And finally we come full circle to Winter, the basis of which comes from the story of Snow White. However the evil queen in this version is none other than the evil queen that Cinder has been up against this whole time. And this is the book that finally gives us the exciting climax and conclusion we’ve been waiting for. I don’t want to spoil anything, since this book did just come out, but it was well worth the read and I enjoyed the ending.

This series does a brilliant job of combining the familiar with the new, and I love that it is set in a future with the Earth battling a new country on the Moon (hence the Lunar Chronicles title). The characters are all well done, interesting, hilarious, and engaging. I would highly recommend this series to anyone who enjoys young adult fiction.

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